Breaking Through Gridlock

Table of contents

1. Cover Page
2. Title Page
3. Copyright Page
4. Dedication
5. Contents
6. Exercises
7. Figures
8. Tables
9. Foreword
10. Preface: How this book came to be
    1. Our journey
    2. A note on our language
11. Introduction: How to use this book
    1. Serious play
    2. A note on the exercises
    3. Introduction summary
12. 1 How We Get Stuck: Breakdowns in conversation
    1. The power of conversation
    2. Start where you are
    3. Focus on real, live conversations
    4. Power plays can’t help you strengthen relationships
    5. Framing breaks down in unfamiliar and polarized situations
    6. Start with authenticity
    7. What’s possible
    8. Chapter 1 summary
13. 2 (In)Authenticity: The key to getting unstuck
    1. Consistency with the past can lead to getting stuck
    2. Dynamic authenticity is aligned with the future
    3. Dynamic authenticity is a team sport
    4. Chapter 2 summary
14. 3 Know What You Bring: The hidden baggage of conversations
    1. Our way of being is tied with our background conversation
    2. Our ways of being are shared
    3. Uncover your background conversations
    4. Ways of being can be tricky to see
    5. Is being in the eye of the beholder?
    6. Being and inauthenticity
    7. Chapter 3 summary
15. 4 Locate the Bait: What we gain when conversations lose
    1. You got yourself stuck
    2. Pitfalls: Background conversations that get us stuck
    3. Identifying the bait helps you get unstuck
    4. Bait usually involves right, righteous, certain, and safe
    5. Map out your pitfall
    6. Chapter 4 summary
16. 5 Dare to Share: Moving past the talking points
    1. Connect with internal motivations
    2. Express what you really want
    3. Embody your new way of being
    4. Chapter 5 summary
17. 6 Start Talking: Bringing conversations back to life
    1. The power of apology
    2. You will encounter a variety of responses
    3. Results require action, and action requires commitment
    4. Chapter 6 summary
18. 7 Embrace the Tension: How our differences can make a difference
    1. Clarify values
    2. Own the polarization
    3. Expand the landscape
    4. Dance in the new terrain
    5. Chapter 7 summary
19. 8 Widen the Circle: Building inclusive movements
    1. Shared inquiry is required to change the collective conversation
    2. Each social movement has core tensions and pitfalls
    3. Realist-visionary tensions are present in all social movements
    4. Movements can have collective bait and pitfalls
    5. Find the possibility at the heart of our movements
    6. We have only just begun to discover the pathways forward
    7. Chapter 8 summary
20. Notes
21. Bibliography
22. Acknowledgments
23. Index
24. About the Authors